Words w/ Comet #1: Bullying

Bullying. We've all heard that word. We've all seen it, too. I've been bullied. In fact, I am going to tell you about a very specific bullying situation that happened to me. It's all done and gone now, but that doesn't justify the fact that it happened.

One day, I was hosting a library party at my den. I had a couple of shelves, some plushies, and books all around my den. I advertised my den, saying, "Library party at my den! Read, chill, and have fun!" I kept at it, walking around, hopping, and dancing. (After all, what other ways can you advertise?) I got a jam-a-gram from a girl (I will not say her name, every post that I post will remain confidential, because this problem is resolved now) that said: "? How is this a library? I thought there would be more shelves. Lol." 

I responded, (bad mistake, mind you, don't ever respond to rude jam-a-grams), saying, "It IS a library, there are shelves and books."

I got a response back that said, "Yeah, but I wasn't expecting only two shelves and one plushie." 

I was starting to get irritated, I kept responding with a flurry of Jam-A-Grams, and then the person eventually said, "I will get you banned if you keep on doing that," and I never heard from them again. I blocked them. But I was crying. I was full-on crying, even if they had really not done that much. I'd been in worse situations than this one, too. This one was just borderline hurtful, and yet I didn't know why it made me cry. Maybe I'm just oversensitive. Or maybe it was because no one had ever threatened to ban me before. 

I talked to some of my friends about what happened, and they all comforted me, but it still lingered in the back of my mind. 

Days later, (maybe weeks), I had unwanted items on trade. I saw the same girl again. I could easily identify her by the red, 'blocked' circle next to her name. With determination, I unblocked her. I have a little code with myself; if I block someone and meet them again, I unblock them. I'm not sure why I do it, I just do. I don't like having long block lists. 

Anyways, she began trading me for the unwanted items, and I accepted them all. They weren't very good trades, but I decided to send the traded items to my friends afterwards, because after each trade, she responded with a smile, or a "Oh, thank you so much!" and messages that made me glad to accept the trades. After all of my items were gone, she thanked me again, and we merrily moved on.

No, we aren't buddies, we never were, but consider it forgiven. I doubt she even remembered me, but I remembered her, and I forgave her. Maybe she forgave me, maybe she unblocked me. The world may never know. I've had several instances like these where I meet someone, have a little argument, block them, move on...and then I find them again, unblock them, and move on again. Sometimes forgiveness is the best answer. Actually, forgiveness is nearly ALWAYS the best answer. It feels good to forgive, and it feels good to be forgiven.

Bullies are unkind, I know that, and I don't appreciate the fact that they feel the need to insult others...but then again, maybe they just want to be forgiven, too. :)

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." -Mahatma Gandhi